How To Get The Attention Of The Person We Like

On many occasions, people behave in a really different way than they are in order to attract attention and to “win over” that person they like. They adapt to their tastes and personalities in order to fully satisfy the other person and make them see that they have things in common. However, on many occasions they fail miserably. It is at that moment that they wonder what could have gone wrong.

The important thing really is to be yourself. If we try to act in a different way, not only will it be forced, but we will probably end up obtaining a different result than expected. Or, the other person will gradually discover that we really are different, and could be disappointed.

However, we can make small adjustments to attract the attention of the people we like without having to put aside our essence, which in the end, is what is truly attractive.

Be a little direct to get attention

When we think about how we will get closer to that person, we see it as something really complex. A perfectly defined strategy that in most cases we are not able to fulfill. And it is that when we like someone, we usually idealize them, we see that person as unattainable and above good and evil. For this reason, we are afraid of rejection, of not being enough and, even, of being despised. However, they are people like the rest and it does not take a special deployment of resources to capture their attention.

Thus, the simplest strategy will always be the most effective. Why not try a simple “ Hi, how are you? “. Being direct and natural is the quickest and most appropriate way to pass the hard time of approaching for the first time. In addition, venturing out and checking that the other person responds the same, will improve our security for future occasions and, above all, will reduce fear.

Distinguish yourself from others

Once we have introduced ourselves or have broken the ice a bit in a first contact, the most difficult thing comes. It is time to sink in, to get their attention and keep it for a long time. To do this, a good way to achieve this is through a funny or original conversation. 

The idea is that we take our strength and promote it. Also, try to be attentive and comment on what the other person is talking about. It shows that you are interested in what he says and everyone likes to be heard!

If this step is successfully completed, you will have already traveled a good part of the way for that person to feel much more comfortable with you and want to talk. From there you have to try to find common ground between the two, topics that interest both. And, if we return to your opinions for future conversations, it will be the icing on the cake.

Make yourself a little beg

When we are attracted to a person we want to constantly talk to them, so we look for the slightest excuse to do so or we respond immediately. This is completely normal, as we feel very comfortable and want to move forward in the relationship. However, if this is not 100% reciprocal, the other party may get tired of us and feel burdened. Or, get her used to always showing up to talk about something.

Therefore, it is important that in a balanced way “you make yourself a little interesting.” Thus, that person will miss us and will be more eager to contact you. In addition, it is a way to check if the interest is mutual. If he doesn’t look for you, maybe you should let him go.

In short, be yourself

Despite these tips, the best trick is to flow spontaneously and naturally. This way it will be much easier to make yourself known, and perhaps in time you will be able to have something else. That is, it is convenient to show oneself as one is so that the other party knows us completely. That is not to say that at first you should not bring out your strengths and play with it. But when push comes to shove, it is best to avoid any type of mask or veil that hides the real personality. So if a relationship does start, it won’t do so on a false basis.