Don’t Run After Someone Who Already Knows Where You Are

Someone once gave me advice that I have never wanted or been able to forget: don’t run after someone who knows where you are, not even out of a moral requirement.  When I asked why I should be so radical with my way of acting, what they answered me has served to open my eyes in many moments of my life.

First of all, they told me, ‘don’t run after anyone, not even behind yourself, because no one needs someone behind, they need someone next. ‘ Afterwards, they told me: ‘if he no longer contributes anything to you, let him go because if he still has something to offer to your day to day, you won’t have to beg him’, that’s why “don’t run after someone who you already know where you are “

Don’t run after anyone, not even behind yourself

Below we will talk about what happens when looking for someone other than you without finding an answer, but what if what happens is that you run after yourself? It seems weird, but it can happen to you. Many times we feel better when we run away from what happens to us or let everything around us run away.

When we run after something that is gone, we are running after ourselves and that is never good. It is necessary to always look ahead, pursuing something that we do not know where it is and that we want to find as our future. If we run after what we were and are not, we will never surpass ourselves.

On many occasions we do not dare to stop short because we are afraid to look into the void and reflect on it. However, we will never find emptiness as long as we accept that it is us who we should love first and to love ourselves we have the obligation to improve ourselves day by day. The same happens when we think about our relationship with others.

If they need you behind, they don’t need you

Surely you are thinking that saying all this is very easy, but that in our life there is that small group of people who we want to be or continue to be there, even though they do not want us to be. It is not easy, for example, to accept how it seems that they can remove us from another person’s life after having shared it.

However, as complicated as it may be, it is very beneficial to remind ourselves that to keep a relationship alive the greatest ingredient that is needed is interest. If there is no interest, there is no relationship, because what keeps us together is the desire to know each other, with all that that entails. Therefore, do not run after someone who already knows where you are …

We can’t feel bad about breaking up with the only thing we have left of a relationship that is over: they don’t need you if they don’t want you by the side complementing life and you don’t really need it either. You only miss something that is no longer and cannot be. Understanding this, valuing yourself and not letting yourself be underestimated is the first big step you can take to move forward.

Look inside, you know where you don’t want to be

It is exactly that. You don’t want to be there where you are waiting for that person to turn around and look at you. You don’t want to be there if you know he isn’t looking at you because he doesn’t want to. Look inside yourself and reflect on it, are you sure you don’t want to pace yourself? What’s the use of going after someone?

Among other things, growing is learning to set your own direction and the speed of your life. You are the one who determines how to cultivate what you have, how to give love: knowing that the one who loses the most is always the one who does not know how to receive it . Share what you have inside with whoever really wants you to do it, because it is the fairest form of affection that is known.